He likes me a lot... when he's drunk

Dear Cutthefuck,

I have a huge crush on this guy and he keeps giving me mixed signals. Whenever he is drunk he wants to make out with me. But he's not THAT drunk... it seems like he's just shy and he is expressing his true feelings when he drinks. I let him sleep over my house the other night after we had been drinking and now he is ignoring me. I think he is probably just shy and really likes me. What should I do?

-Confused


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Advice 1

This guy's a douche. It's fine to relax with a drink or two, but to depend on alcohol for facilitating any sort of romantic/sexual/social release is lame. And mixed signals are not mixed signals, they're bad signals. If something is good, you'll know it. If you're not sure, it's probably bad. Forget him.



Advice 2

Some people say that one's true character comes out when drinking. If you're a sad drunk, a happy drunk, or a confrontational drunk, that reflects some part of your true inner being. So this guy, deep down, probably likes you A LOT - may even love you, but he can only begin to show you how he feels when alcohol allows for his inhibitions to disappear.

My advice is for you to begin drinking more. If you're drinking at the same frequency as he is, his dependency on alcohol won't seem like a problem. Sure, it will seem weird once you both sober up and he completely ignores you, but you should NOT feel bad about it - that would be totally unfair of you actually - it would be as bad as being racist. His inability to show emotion is a congenital condition, one which he's learned to medicate with alcohol. And there's nothing wrong with that. You need to respect him the way he is. Just like you'd respect an animal doing its animal thing.

The choices here are: you can have him drunk, or you can not have him at all. Take him the way he is, and pour an extra drink for yourself.